The parentified daughter has done it all alone.
She’s felt like everyone’s caregiver.
Here’s what she needs to hear:
She’s felt like everyone’s caregiver.
Here’s what she needs to hear:
The parentified daughter has felt the weight of the world on her shoulders since she was a child. She should have been protected. She should have had someone caring for her.
But her parents came from a different generation. One where they didn’t understand the needs of children. One where they didn’t understand the lifelong impact of her doing too much, too soon.
She saw her mother not getting emotional support she needed. She saw her father working non-stop. Her empathy her feel like she was a burden. Like she caused their stress.
And today she still feels like a burden. Like she’s “too much.” She over-apologizes. She over-explains. Anything she can to not upset someone or cause more problems.
She never shows she’s angry. She neglects herself as she meets the emotional needs of everyone else. When her body responds with inflammation and chronic pain, no one seems to understand.
Sometimes she’s even told it’s all in her head. Or that nothing is actually wrong. But something is wrong.
She’s had a job since an early age that was never hers.
She’s had a job since an early age that was never hers.
She needs to know the reason she’s drawn to overly-needy people is because it’s the familiar role she had to play. And that adult relationships where there is a fixer and a rescuer are robbing her of her health and joy.
She needs to know those who love her will support her in supporting herself. She needs to know authentic love means she’s not doing it all all. She needs to know she deserves a life beyond survival mode.
If you’re ready to heal from parentification, my private community @selfhealerscirc opens Jan 2nd. Spaces do sell out, and January is always our largest enrollment.
Secure your spot on the waitlist here: selfhealerscircle.com
Secure your spot on the waitlist here: selfhealerscircle.com
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