btw i wrote whole book trying to address the problem of “most people dont know what they want” and struggled for over a year before i came to see that the formulation is slightly mistaken or misframed. wanting is not an intellectual act to be known with the mind. wanting is felt
young children don’t intellectualize their wants. they just want stuff and run after it, full steam ahead. you rarely see a young child thats conflicted about what they want unless they’ve been bullied/abused etc. things get messier around adolescence and/or when they have peers
its too complicated to squeeze all the details into a tweet, but the underlying point is: its often more fruitful not to ask “what do i want”, but instead direct inquiry along the lines of, “when/how did i start suppressing my wants?” there are often good reasons for this
the minotaur of desire is a powerful creature, coded as dangerous, hostile, shameful, etc. and it gets locked up in a labyrinth of reason. then having jailed our hearts, we ask ourselves why we feel so cold, despondent, bored, listless
kids love Elsa bc she demonstrates this
kids love Elsa bc she demonstrates this
these are excellent guiding questions yup
some people can ask “what do i want” and answer it honestly
but if the question is loaded for you (very common), proxies like these tend to yield better answers
you almost gotta glitch/hack/bypass the internal propaganda dept
some people can ask “what do i want” and answer it honestly
but if the question is loaded for you (very common), proxies like these tend to yield better answers
you almost gotta glitch/hack/bypass the internal propaganda dept
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